Online Therapy in BerlinHelp with decision-makingAre you trying to work out if you should stay in your relationship or leave it?
Or whether you want to change career? Or if you want to have a child or not? Thinking about whether to move back home or stay in Berlin? |
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Sometimes these bigger decisions can leave us feeling paralysed for months, if not years. It can feel like the pros and cons are weighted equally on each side leaving you stuck as to what to do. There can also be a lot of fear around making the wrong decision and regretting it.
I help by getting to know the parts of you on each side of this decision. When we get to know these parts more deeply, we can find out about the underlying motivations and concerns that you may currently be unaware of. This can open up much more clarity on how to move forward while honouring the concerns on either side. If this sounds complicated, don’t worry, I guild you through the whole process step by step. Find out more about therapy for decision-making here.
I help by getting to know the parts of you on each side of this decision. When we get to know these parts more deeply, we can find out about the underlying motivations and concerns that you may currently be unaware of. This can open up much more clarity on how to move forward while honouring the concerns on either side. If this sounds complicated, don’t worry, I guild you through the whole process step by step. Find out more about therapy for decision-making here.
There's not enough time in the day!
Do you want to work on your stuff but feel really pushed for time as it is?
Are you worried that therapy would involve lots of homework that you wouldn’t end up finding time to do?
It’s so hard to juggle everything and so often we end up pushing our self-care to the bottom of the priority list.
I offer therapy where we do the work in the session itself, so you will get something out of it even if your busy life means you will barely have a chance to think about yourself in between sesssions. And meeting online is a really practical way to save that time it would take to travel. If you can it’s wonderful to take ten minutes to be with yourself before and after each session, but if a busy day takes you by suprise it’s also fine to just jump straight on the call and I will help you settle into the online therapy session and make the most of the time for yourself.
Are you worried that therapy would involve lots of homework that you wouldn’t end up finding time to do?
It’s so hard to juggle everything and so often we end up pushing our self-care to the bottom of the priority list.
I offer therapy where we do the work in the session itself, so you will get something out of it even if your busy life means you will barely have a chance to think about yourself in between sesssions. And meeting online is a really practical way to save that time it would take to travel. If you can it’s wonderful to take ten minutes to be with yourself before and after each session, but if a busy day takes you by suprise it’s also fine to just jump straight on the call and I will help you settle into the online therapy session and make the most of the time for yourself.
Culture shock in Berlin
Are you finding it a challenge to settle into Berlin or German culture?
So many challenges come up as you build a life in a new country. Two of the most common pain points I help people with are:
I help you to figure out your strategy for navigating all this. This is a tough challenge and the right approach to it will be different for each person. We will map out the different parts of you around it and then find a way forward that’s right for you as a whole.
So for example you might have a part that wants you to learn German intensively for 6 months and another part that says ‘no way, we have a lot of other important projects to focus on, we don’t have time for that’. Or you might have a part that wants to embrace the international climate of Berlin and just stick to using English and another part of you that criticises you for that and thinks you have to speak German at every opportunity.
We’re going to find a way forward that honours all these concerns so that you can feel more balance and ease around the whole thing.
So many challenges come up as you build a life in a new country. Two of the most common pain points I help people with are:
- German language: how much German should I learn, and how on earth do I find time for that? How do I interact with people without German or with the little bit of German I’m starting to learn? Maybe you feel judged about not speaking German, maybe you judge yourself. It is so hard, learning a language is like a full-time job in itself and for many off us this just isn’t realistic.
- German culture: if you are an immigrant to Germany like me, then there’s a good chance you are used to two things: People being much more friendly to strangers and people being less direct (as a British person this was a tough one for me!). In shops, supermarkets, in queues, just on the street, you might be used to getting a friendly smile and polite service. It can feel really uncomfortable and even threatening when this suddenly changes. Berlin is not exactly known for it’s customer service and if you are finding this hard to adapt to you are not alone. We naturally take this personally, it really hurts when we feel like someone is being unfriendly towards us and when it happens a few times a week it can really impact our sense of wellbeing.
I help you to figure out your strategy for navigating all this. This is a tough challenge and the right approach to it will be different for each person. We will map out the different parts of you around it and then find a way forward that’s right for you as a whole.
So for example you might have a part that wants you to learn German intensively for 6 months and another part that says ‘no way, we have a lot of other important projects to focus on, we don’t have time for that’. Or you might have a part that wants to embrace the international climate of Berlin and just stick to using English and another part of you that criticises you for that and thinks you have to speak German at every opportunity.
We’re going to find a way forward that honours all these concerns so that you can feel more balance and ease around the whole thing.
If you would like to talk more about how I can help in your specific situation, book a free first session here.