Overcoming Limerence with Internal Family Systems TherapyDo you spend hours replaying interactions, looking for signs of interest, imagining future conversations, or trying to understand what the other person is thinking?
Are you stuck in repetitive fantasies? Do you keep trying to move on but it just isn’t working? IFS offers you the space to get to know the different parts of you involved in the romantic obsession and move beyond it. |
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Here are some parts that are often active in people experiencing limerence:
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Fantasizing part: Repeatedly imagines conversations, reunions, or a future in which you are together.
Detective part: Analyzes every message, facial expression, social media post, or period of silence for evidence of interest. Hopeful part: Insists “Don’t give up yet.” Reassurance-seeking part: Desperately wants to text, check, pursue, or seek reassurance. |
And then there may be other parts criticizing the whole process:
This is ridiculous.
Why am I still thinking about them?
I should be over this by now.
In IFS therapy the goal is to help you separate these different parts of you and reconnect to your Self. To release you from this trap of intense attachment. So that you can regain a sense of agency and choice about where you focus your mental energy and how you engage with your life.
Once you can identify each part, you can begin to separate from them just enough to relate to them with curiosity. Rather than being consumed by the obsession, you begin to notice, “A part of me is desperate for this person’s attention,” or “A part of me is creating fantasies.”
From that place, healing can begin.
This is ridiculous.
Why am I still thinking about them?
I should be over this by now.
In IFS therapy the goal is to help you separate these different parts of you and reconnect to your Self. To release you from this trap of intense attachment. So that you can regain a sense of agency and choice about where you focus your mental energy and how you engage with your life.
Once you can identify each part, you can begin to separate from them just enough to relate to them with curiosity. Rather than being consumed by the obsession, you begin to notice, “A part of me is desperate for this person’s attention,” or “A part of me is creating fantasies.”
From that place, healing can begin.
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